Childless, Holidays, Boundaries & Belonging:Navigating Workplace Equity
Katy Schnitzler returns to The Full Stop five years on — now fresh off submitting her PhD — to dig into one of the thorniest workplace issues for people who are childless not by choice: holidays, leave, and boundaries. The conversation moves from the personal (the strange non-celebration of finishing a PhD, the "full stop" feeling of an ending without ceremony) into the structural: school-holiday leave bias, rota and shift unfairness, "informal favours" for parents, and the particular pressures faced by teachers, midwives and nurses who are childless. Katy shares findings from her doctoral research and her Pronatalism at Work project, and the group works through practical, non-judgemental ways organisations — and individuals — can make leave, language and culture fairer for everyone, without taking anything away from parents.
Key topics
Holiday and school-term leave bias against childless employees
"Informal favours," rota unfairness and the assumption that childless staff have nothing to rush home for
Teaching, midwifery and nursing as flashpoints for childless professionals
Ambiguous and disenfranchised grief — why childlessness grief isn't always recognised, even by therapists
Pronatalism in the workplace: baby showers, scan photos, "doing it for the kids" culture
The intersection of childlessness with disability, chronic illness, singleness and bereavement
Practical, low-cost fixes: transparent leave/booking systems, anonymous feedback, external training, first-come-first-served leave policies
Takeaways
Holidays are emotionally loaded for people without children, and recognising that respectfully helps everyone.
"Gentle challenge" responses ("that's not always how it feels") put the work back on the person making assumptions, not the person experiencing them.
Transparent, first-come-first-served leave systems can remove parental status from the equation entirely. It also allows those who are restricted by school terms (themselves or loved one) to take time off too.
Anonymous feedback on workload and leave can surface disparities before they become resentment.
External, MIST training takes the emotional load off the person going through it as they don't have to "out" themselves to get change.
This isn't about bashing parents. It's about making space at the table for everyone's story, not just the happy ones.
Meet our Guest
Katy Schnitzler is an academic and corporate trainer specialising in reproductive health and childlessness (pregnancy loss, infertility, menstrual health, menopause). Founder of MIST Workshops (est. 2020), and author of doctoral research including the Pronatalism at Work project.
Resources mentioned
Pronatalism at Work Project (Katy Schnitzler) is referenced in episode
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