5 ways that childless, childfree and parents can support each other over the school holidays

Summer looks different for all of us. Parents may be juggling childcare or family trips; some of us are holding the fort, wondering what happened to that network group or navigating loneliness. Acknowledging each other’s challenges may make a huge difference and creates a respectful space where we can meet in the middle.

1. Avoid “At Least You Don’t Have Kids” as a Catch-All. One in twenty women and 25% of men who are childless not by choice, may not have school runs, childcare costs or toddler meltdowns. That doesn’t mean life or family is easier; it’s different. Childlessness is never by choice.

2. Give us a choice. We notice how many events turn into “kids welcome” over the summer. Sometimes we have no invitation. Choices are welcome. Allow us the opportunity to say ‘no, not today’ and gently welcome us if we accept with an inclusive conversation — you’re more than your children, and we’re more than our childlessness.

3. Share the Load Fairly at Work. Of course, parents understandably need time off. When the same people always cover the shifts, deadlines, or meetings, it can breed resentment. Let’s be transparent, collaborative, and thank each other. And be mindful that childless and childfree may have teachers in our lives, or people working similar roles. We could have people we care for or carers who need time off. It’s the summer holidays for everyone.

4. Celebrate Everyone’s Summer News. Let’s cheer each other on, not just the milestones that society prioritises.

5. Watch the Hierarchy. We sometimes hear, “Wait ’til you have realresponsibilities” or “You’ve got so much free time!” It stings. We all carry responsibilities, and maybe some visible, some are not. Respect goes both ways.

Summer isn’t just for families — it’s for everyone. And we all do better when we respect each other’s time, stories, and needs.

Listen to the Full Stop podcast for more meeting in the middle. Our episode on being a childless aunt, uncle or godparent has lots of helpful learning.

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